I apologize

July 18, 2012 · 6 comments

Dear everyone who has ever suffered from joint pain, arthritis, fibromyalgia, other chronic pains, lack of cartilage or any disability that limits your use of arms, legs, feet and/or hands,

How the hell do you do it? I mean, I never doubted the pain and suffering, but until this joint pain started as a side effect to the Zelboraf, I truly had no idea.

The hard time climbing stairs, getting out of a chair, sitting down. The lack of strength and dexterity to do the everyday simple things like open a door, hold a pen, carry things, type, wipe, clean, cook and a million other things I’ve apparently taken for granted.

How? I’m fairly strong and I can find the humor and silver lining in most things, but this? This sucks.

So to any of you out there who know what I’m talking about..really know…I apologize if I haven’t been understanding enough. And for those of you who don’t know joint pain, I hope you never do. And dad? Get the damn knee surgery! If your “ache” is anything like my pain, you’re nuts.

{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

monstergirlee July 18, 2012 at 4:23 pm

My husband has a spinal fusion in the dead center of his back, that’s about 15 years old. The discs below are degenerating and his chronic pain has been steadily getting worse for several years. I do not live with it, but I do understand it. My heart goes out to you to have to live with this new thing, it sucks, there’s no dressing it up. I’m sorry, Hugs to you.


Jessica Gottlieb July 18, 2012 at 4:29 pm

Oh honey… I’m so sorry.

If you have a pool go float in it at the end of the day, it’s the loveliest feeling in the world.


TheAvasmommy July 18, 2012 at 4:48 pm

Oh honey, I’m sorry.

It just plain sucks. I don’t talk about my joint issues often. I have a bad history of lousy family genes in the joint department. I’ve had issues with my knees & wrists since I was a teenager. And the older I get, the worse it gets.

I don’t have the magic bullet. I do know I understand how you feel.


shine July 18, 2012 at 4:56 pm

So glad there are others who understand your pain. I wish I could take it away or do something for you. Please know that you can always vent to me, I will never tire of hearing it. Love and hugs!


Tara R. July 18, 2012 at 5:06 pm

I have rheumatoid arthritis and while it’s managed and seems to be progressing slowly, there are times when it’s hard to move as easily as I used to. I do understand and empathize. I try to keep a sense of humor about, but it can be annoying when other people can’t comprehend how much it hurts or limits your abilities, especially if you were very active Before. Do what you can, when you can. There are people ‘out there’ who get it and will offer a hand or shoulder when you need it. {{hugs}}


Chrisor (ynotkissme) July 18, 2012 at 6:38 pm

I’m so sorry you now have this to contend with on top of everything else! About 5 years ago, out of the blue, one morning I woke up with severe arthritis in my left hip and leg. It was like I had aged 50 years overnight! The pain never stopped. Trying to move from a sitting or laying position was excruciating. I had it for 6 weeks before I finally went to the doctor. I thought it would go away by itself. He gave me prednisone and within hours it was gone. He told me it would come back but it hasn’t yet and I hope it never does. I understand what you’re suffering and wish I could help. All I’ve got is hugs for you and an ear to listen. Don’t be so hard on yourself. I can’t imagine you being anything but understanding to people.


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