Heartbreaker

January 22, 2007 · 19 comments

(Pat Benetar)

My kids don’t want me. It’s midnight, both kids are screaming and neither of them want me. They both want daddeeeeee. Yes, I’m glad they love their daddy – he is a wonderful father – loving and fun and smart and nuturing – so what does that make me? Alone. Watching and hearing them cry in the monitors for daddy and, me, useless. I understand there are certain times when kids want their daddy, and I’m fine with it. But this every night shit is starting to really piss me off. I do everything for these kids and they won’t let me soothe them in the night. Preston seriously jumped from my arms to get away and get to daddy. And now, Mike has gone in to see Matt and Preston is screaming and I can’t even go in there because he’ll just scream harder and harder until he sees his daddy and then he’ll be perfectly fine and calm. Like I’m some kind of axe murderer (ok, so that wouldn’t do it at his age….maybe some kind of crayon stealer or something…).

P. is screaming. M. is not moaning and groaning because daddy is in bed with him. Mama has a killer headache, sense of failure and uselessness, feels unloved, unneeded, and goes back to bed. πŸ™

SIGH.

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January 22, 2007 at 8:32 am

And now, daddeeeeee is exhausted and pretty much in agreement with many parts of this posts. Perhaps I need to scare them. πŸ˜€

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<![CDATA[Clara]]& January 22, 2007 at 3:10 pm

It\'s a phase they all go through at different parts of their life. Jessica has been sick all week, and when Daddy comes home, she clings to him, even the cat can\'t seem to get enough of him. I\'m non existent and am not even allowed in their \"space\". But since I\'m the one home all day with them, I welcome the space in the evening. Although I totally understand the heart break. But imagine what Daddy must feel when they do the clingy act to you, which mostly happens that first year of life. Oh well, good luck! Something to scrapbook, their clingy phase with Daddy.

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<![CDATA[pgoodnes January 22, 2007 at 4:55 pm

Scrapbook? What\'s that? πŸ˜€

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<![CDATA[jen]]&gt January 22, 2007 at 6:09 pm

ah, yes. it\'s the opposite at my house…and sometimes i so wish i was the one laying in bed while J was the one responding to the call..but when i stop to think about it, the reverse would piss me off, too.

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January 22, 2007 at 10:10 pm

It’s a phase they all go through at different parts of their life. Jessica has been sick all week, and when Daddy comes home, she clings to him, even the cat can’t seem to get enough of him. I’m non existent and am not even allowed in their “space”. But since I’m the one home all day with them, I welcome the space in the evening. Although I totally understand the heart break. But imagine what Daddy must feel when they do the clingy act to you, which mostly happens that first year of life. Oh well, good luck! Something to scrapbook, their clingy phase with Daddy.

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January 22, 2007 at 11:55 pm

Scrapbook? What’s that? πŸ˜€

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January 23, 2007 at 1:09 am

ah, yes. it’s the opposite at my house…and sometimes i so wish i was the one laying in bed while J was the one responding to the call..but when i stop to think about it, the reverse would piss me off, too.

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<![CDATA[Clara]]& January 23, 2007 at 2:55 am

Hahaha, I hear you about the scrapbooking. Jessica\'s scrapbook is updated as far as November 2005. How sad. And if I don\'t update it in the next 5 months before the baby is born, I never will. But I have been doing a little digital scrapbooking of current photo\'s. I write in a journal for her, and somewhat update her baby book. So I am not that bad a mom, hahaha.

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<![CDATA[Oh, The January 23, 2007 at 4:13 am

This is the story of my life too. Daddy is way better. I am chopped liver. (Though I actually LIKE chopped liver – the food, not BEING it.)

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January 23, 2007 at 9:55 am

Hahaha, I hear you about the scrapbooking. Jessica’s scrapbook is updated as far as November 2005. How sad. And if I don’t update it in the next 5 months before the baby is born, I never will. But I have been doing a little digital scrapbooking of current photo’s. I write in a journal for her, and somewhat update her baby book. So I am not that bad a mom, hahaha.

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January 23, 2007 at 11:13 am

This is the story of my life too. Daddy is way better. I am chopped liver. (Though I actually LIKE chopped liver – the food, not BEING it.)

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January 23, 2007 at 1:03 pm

Daddy threw up the white flag early last night – long before bedtime even – and declared that the boy would join us in bed the first time he woke up.

Of course, on cue, he woke up at 8pm. So maybe the second time. πŸ™‚

I was about to hang the dog on a yardarm though, that’s for sure. I don’t even know if they still use yardarms, but if they do, my dog has a reservation.

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<![CDATA[Shine]]& January 23, 2007 at 11:09 am

Yes,it\'s the opposite at my house too- once in a while it would be nice to roll over and go back to sleep and let hubby deal with it. However my older son is a momma\'s boy- has always been- but I am sure soon enough he\'ll be interested more in sports, video games and cars than hanging out with me and I will miss the time we had together. I know that it bugs hubby too that our son comes to me for everyting- but I take care of him all day, what else would he do? I feel for you though P!

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January 23, 2007 at 6:09 pm

Yes,it’s the opposite at my house too- once in a while it would be nice to roll over and go back to sleep and let hubby deal with it. However my older son is a momma’s boy- has always been- but I am sure soon enough he’ll be interested more in sports, video games and cars than hanging out with me and I will miss the time we had together. I know that it bugs hubby too that our son comes to me for everyting- but I take care of him all day, what else would he do?

I feel for you though P!

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<![CDATA[flutterc January 26, 2007 at 2:08 pm

Oh honey…

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January 26, 2007 at 9:08 pm

Oh honey…

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<![CDATA[phenom]] February 27, 2008 at 7:56 pm

And now, daddeeeeee is exhausted and pretty much in agreement with many parts of this posts. Perhaps I need to scare them. πŸ˜€

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<![CDATA[phenom]] February 27, 2008 at 7:56 pm

Daddy threw up the white flag early last night – long before bedtime even – and declared that the boy would join us in bed the first time he woke up. Of course, on cue, he woke up at 8pm. So maybe the second time. πŸ™‚ I was about to hang the dog on a yardarm though, that\'s for sure. I don\'t even know if they still use yardarms, but if they do, my dog has a reservation.

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